Welcome to this 7-part series on creating consistent balance in your life.
Did you know that 2 out of 3 people believe their lives were out of balance? That is not a fun statistic. As someone that can get out of balance and put too much focus on work, this statistic hits home for me.
Because of this, I think it's important to me to keep a pulse on how I'm doing at maintaining a reasonable balance in my life. Realistically, we will never be fully balanced for long periods of time, but we can be aware of where things are off.
In this 7-part series, we will look at seven ways to create consistent balance in your life. Realistically, I understand there will always be ups and downs, highs and lows but I expect of myself (and hopefully you do for yourself as well) a moderate level of consistent balance in my life.
I use the word BALANCE to give you seven topics to think about and for you to focus on to help you maintain a reasonable balance in your life. The first is behavior.
B is for Behavior
If you want to improve balance in your life improve your behavior. The problem is most people really struggle with self-awareness. In fact, research shows 95% of those surveyed believed they had great self-awareness but when this was evaluated only 10-15% actually have great self-awareness.
But this can be fixed. It starts by asking great questions. For great self-awareness, you have to ask yourself great questions. I want to show you how to do this.
There are many ways to do this but I want to share two with you. The first way is to focus on the WIN. This first approach to paying attention to your behavior helps you to reflect on specific situations in the moment or shortly after.
How To Create A WIN In Any Situation
How does WIN work? I'm glad you asked. It's simple. WIN is another one of those wonderful acronyms that I love so much.
- W - What went well?
- I - What could be improved?
- N - What could you do differently next time? Or Where can you apply the new learning?
It only takes 2-minutes to ask yourself these questions. But the impact is life-changing. For example, the next time you're hanging out with a friend and get irritated by their behavior and then say something stupid, take some time to reflect. Turn the loss into a WIN (credit to Dr. Keith Webb for this concept).
What went well? Don't dwell on the fact that you said something stupid. Evaluate yourself. What went well? Find a nugget of good in the situation. Then ask yourself, what could be improved? Finally, ask yourself, what could you do differently next time?
You can also use this in a situation that went well. For example, you leave a business meeting and the meeting went smoothly, people were civil, and there are clear action steps. Okay great, now take 2-minutes to review and make this an even bigger WIN.
Using this approach is for in the moment type reflection. Now I want you to learn about weekly reflection to help you modify your behavior and work toward more balance in your life.
Modifying Your Behavior With Weekly Reflection
A simple way to make a huge impact on balance in your life is to do a 30-minute weekly reflection. How do you do that? Great question!
Every Saturday I do a weekly review. I look at my to-do lists, my goals, and also complete a MOLO. I want to teach you the MOLO. The MOLO is a powerful set of questions that have literally changed my life in just a few weeks.
Here are the 5 questions.
- What do I need to do More of?
- What do I need to do Less of?
- What do I need to Start doing?
- What do I need to Stop doing?
- What do I need to keep doing?
Take 30-minutes every Saturday (or your day of choosing) and reflect on the behaviors of your week and what changes need to be made. I can tell you that after 5 weeks or so of this, you will see some amazing changes.
I created new habits, stopped old ones, got new clients, improved relationships, and more. It's not too good to be true. It's just smart behavior modification.
Improve Your Behaviors - Improve Balance
Remember, to improve balance you have to improve your behaviors. The best way to do this is to do self-reflection but this self-reflection needs to be done right.
These two steps I shared with you give you an opportunity to evaluate your experiences in an almost unbiased way. Evaluated experience is the work we need to do to create the wisdom in our lives to maintain balance.
As we go through this acronym, each letter will give you simple ideas you can immediately apply to your life. I want to encourage you to start today with using the WIN and MOLO. You'll be amazed at how simple and effective these questions are for your life.
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